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Self-behalfness is my credo (2002-11-02 - 11:56 p.m.)
The results are what you have with you now: the sound of a long-broken machine deciding, on its own and without the interference of repairmen or excessive prayer vigils, to function again. It is a painfully raw sound that can be legitimately be thought of as a second performer on these otherwise unaccompanied recordings. Its inexplicable self-originating will to go on echoes some of the boneheaded ideas that motivate the people who populate these little songs. Some of us, when we're really sleepy or facing an unacceptable loss, imagine the hand of a person behind all this: an ornery little fellow who will have no sound without a second sound to obscure and pollute it, who is deeply mistrusting of singers in general, and who believes that whatever "signal-to-noise ratio" might mean, it can't be any good unless more value is placed on the latter of the two hyphenated terms. Of course the original signal is never actually anywhere near any recordings anywhere, but you all already knew that. You have been sure of it for quite some time now. It is the reason you started reading these lines in the first place. � John Darnielle, in the liner notes to the Mountain Goats album "All Hail West Texas" I'm trying to be in the right place at the right time, but I'm trying to figure out where that is and when that is, so I keep driving around. � Dennis Woodruff, in a filler bit I saw on AMC earlier this evening The previous entry contained not a single molecule of instant pudding. For that, I like myself very much. As well I should. Administrative note: Could the person who is running a script that sends mail to his or her Yahoo account every time I post a new entry please be in touch? Yeah, I keep an eye on my stats now, it sucks and I'm sorry. The reason for my presumptuous request for you to give up spectating and become an active participant in one aspect of this enterprise, which otherwise you must understand I would never make, is that I recently learned that this was Todd's m.o. with the Monitor, and unless you 'fess up I'm going to have to conclude that this is him too, the "Blissful ignorance is my credo" shot to hell I mean proved a lie one more time. If you can spare me from that disillusionment, I wish you would. Please. So last night was great, though it's hard to go wrong out with Vanessa and Popeye at an establishment that serves liquor and provides a stage to the Long Winters. Both of those kids were in top form, Vanessa conversationally mentioning apropos of Popeye's imminent deployment that he is leaving her all his car parts and Popeye renaming the second opening band Arrogant Mouse. And the evening was not marred by the presence of Todd and date, hooray. Vanessa did call my attention to one of his friends who was for a little while standing next to us, the behalfness chick, but I didn't even look that way, myself, just in case she was going to shoot me some kind of a you-bitch look that might have made me cry � is that chicken of me? � and of course by "for a little while" I mean "until she got as far away as she could," by which I mean retreated to the bar. Sigh. I am not an animal! I am a human being! On the other hand, sigh but no cry. I had dressed to look female (Todd's date)-intimidatingly good but not slutty and as if I could kick some ass if called upon to do so: the red boots, scoop-necked black sweater, and a plaid Catholic-schoolgirl miniskirt that I rolled up a little higher to show off the tights, which were silvery with a herringbone pattern and semi-opaque; they make me look like a superhero, or at least a superhero from the waist down. Um. Dinner at Cheryl's delightful too, mostly old TankedStock.com associates who don't even blink when you matter-of-factly announce that you're unemployed and for whatever reason currently unmotivated to do something about it. I love it. There was unsexy Masters-and-Johnson-type sex talk on the subjects of masturbation and various physiological differences between the genders, that sort of thing, interesting and informative, and I learned maybe more than I would have chosen to about some of my fellow party guests but that's OK. The tights and boots were complimented. Oh, and Ian's wife, Melissa, who teaches high school, said that she'd be happy to tell me all about the UW program, including what they want to hear during the interview. Melissa also says that everyone in her program "who wanted one" (hmm) found a teaching job for the September after graduation and that English-teachery is for sure the growth industry, since so many of them are retiring and choosing not to return from maternity leaves and also on account of the incredibly high burnout rate engendered by the paper-grading workload; in fact, Melissa herself is among the burned, having switched to history. So how's that for an informed perspective. At one point Ian asked me if I was single these days and I said, "More or less," and Julian said that was an admirably accurate representation of both the brouhaha and my state of mind, he said that he was proud of me. Now Saturday night finds me tucked up at home typing and watching movies and writing in my freakin diary and then later I'm going to read my new books, on the surface the apotheosis of lame, but it's what I want therefore what I need and I'm doing it, so there. It is comfortable. I've been hanging out with myself today, walking places and doing some thinking, and I feel more settled inside my head than I have in a long time, and also I'm trying to shake this externally imposed notion that my preferred means of sorting and figuring things out is weird because of (a) how much time I dedicate to the project and (b) where the project gets projected. Like last night at Cheryl's Julian was giving me mild shit about how every so often he wonders what I'm writing about and clicks to the Dishery but each time he is assaulted by Too many words! You know what, this is my life and this is how I'm living it. I don't want to protest anymore that my writing isn't freakish on either the (a) or (b) tip, because doing so implies that the accusation I'm denying is worth my logical engagement with it. Especially now: I'm taking what I need, I'm doing what makes me feel some measure better. Period. Also I had some e-mail from Catharine this morning. I'm thinking about that too, but I want to wait until I talk to her before I go writing about it here. Catharine, the following should not be taken as my having ignored what you wrote. You know what I'm talking about. Here are some things I think would go a long way towards the ultimate goal of something approximating mental and emotional health, so I am going to try them and no-pressure see how things go.
Yes, and obviously (4) brings up the question, the differential equation, of when preparing to decathect becomes, in itself, a kind of decathexis � whether the previous paragraph negates the third paragraph of the last entry, whether my ears can�t hear me starting to cluck. Don't know, don't know. I've always been wildly attracted to the concept of inoculation. To me, the fact of its efficacy is almost impossibly gorgeous, perfected, as though an idea and the metaphor for the idea could be the same thing. If I had ever thought about these things while under the influence of a hallucinogen, I feel sure that I would have blown my own mind. Another thing I don't know: how is inoculation related to self-debasement and medicine to poison, and when? Is anyone still reading who remembers my writing about the katto ceremony last summer in the Monitor? Here's the excerpt again in any case, from an AP article published on June 14, 2001:
Behind the redirect page at the Monitor URL, I put up the first post-bustup entry, from back in August when I was still young and lovely, because it is not immaterial and because it is the truth. I took off a necklace that I happened to be wearing on Labor Day weekend when the DL got negotiated and had kept on, superstitiously as if to show the world my station and defiantly to show that I was showing it, ever since. Here's a link to the entry I wrote after Todd promised never to try to find my diary. Promised. Here I am, still trying as hard as I can to find and to tell the truth. In this, I have not wavered, and no one can take that from me. When I got to the Crocodile last night and found Vanessa and Popeye, I gave them matter-of-fact instructions right away as to what we would do if we saw Todd and a date (no hello, I would try not to glance in their direction without making a spectacle of myself in the trying-not-to and they should try to position themselves so as to facilitate this, above all I would ruin no one's evening). Vanessa said, half questioning and half half-incredulous statement, "He's *dating*," and then in the moment that she looked at me before she had to look away, I saw in her expression disgust and anger and sadness and compassion and maybe futility, and I wanted to tell her No, it's OK, if it's what he needs then I want him to take it � but I didn't, because I have to save myself first, and because I recognized what all that was that had played across her face. It was behalfness. Now that I think of it, I realize that I haven't cried all day. previous entry
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